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Grab bag? Secret Santa? Dirty Santa? Any one of these are great ways to give gifts during the holidays, especially if you have a large family. For those of you who may have never heard of these traditions, let me explain each of them.

Grab bag: This is pretty simple. A name is put on a small piece of paper, and put into a hat or bowl. Each person in the family picks a name and that is the person they buy a gift for. With a grab bag, there is usually a price limit set so that it makes it more fair. The best time to do the name distributing is perhaps at Thanksgiving when the same members are most likely to be together that will be together for Christmas, plus it gives a month for them to buy the gift. It is ok to know who picked your name, then you can give that person some gift ideas you may like.

Secret Santa: Pretty much the same as a grab bag, except that who is buying your gift, is kept a secret. This is fun, because after getting the gift, you might be very surprised how well the person does or does not know you, based on the gift they bought.

Dirty Santa: This has to be my favorite of all time. Everyone brings a wrapped gift (again this usually has a maximum price limit set) . The gifts are placed on a table, and each person takes a number from a hat or bowl. The person that has number one picks a gift from the table, however when the person with number 2 picks a gift, they can take from the table, or “steal” the gift from #1. Then the first person has to take another from the pile of gifts. You continue to do this to the last person and the last gift is taken. Its fun, to see what gift you would have had, if someone wasn’t “dirty” and taken the gift from you.

What traditions do you have when it’s time to give gifts? What is your favorite? Why not share them over at Boomer Yearbook, and hey who knows, maybe someone will find a new and exciting tradition to try with their family and friends.

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 Echo Boomers: Who are they? https://karenturnerphd.org/echo-boomers-who-are-they/ Wed, 06 Sep 2023 17:16:45 +0000 https://karenturnerphd.org/?p=5741   Now that most of the Baby Boomers are heading for retirement, a new generation is taking place – the Echo Boomers. Why “echo boomers”? Born after the Baby Boomer era, the year 1977-1984 have been dominated by children of baby boomers. Thus the term “echo” – this signifies reflection of the boomers’ culture, beliefs […]

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Now that most of the Baby Boomers are heading for retirement, a new generation is taking place – the Echo Boomers.

Why “echo boomers”? Born after the Baby Boomer era, the year 1977-1984 have been dominated by children of baby boomers. Thus the term “echo” – this signifies reflection of the boomers’ culture, beliefs and attitudes. Also known as Generation Y ( after baby boomers who were known as Generation X), the Echo Boomers are gradually setting an impact on the entire segment of the economy and society. It is predicted that they will become the next dominant generation in America as boomers age.

Echo Boomers have usually been regarded as “overachievers” and “over managed”. It isn’t a wonder why they ended up that way as since they were still kids, their parents – the boomers – have pampered them and taught them well, giving them the needed structure for psychosocial growth and development. To return the favor and please their parents, Echo Boomers based their actions on what their parents tell them to do.

Although deprived of riding a bike without a helmet, eating at a cafeteria that serves peanut butter, staying home during a recital, or riding a car without wearing a seatbelt, echo boomers have turned out to be special. They have become followers of rules, conventional individuals who hold traditional values. And although diversity is dominant in this generation, they respect differences and believe everyone should be part of the community.

Now that “Echo Boomers” is no longer an alien term, meet them and interact with them by joining Boomer Yearbook. An online social network designed not only for baby boomers but for echo boomers as well. Be informed of the latest trends and gadgets circulating the web, have fun chatting with others and learning about their ways. Don’t get left behind. Be part of this interactive network now!

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 Elderly Problems: Surviving the Death of a Spouse https://karenturnerphd.org/elderly-problems-surviving-the-death-of-a-spouse/ Wed, 06 Sep 2023 15:15:08 +0000 https://karenturnerphd.org/?p=5662   For the baby boomer generation, the loss of a spouse is something you have an even chance of suffering in later years. Those who are on the surviving end of the process can sometimes feel the effects of bereavement with such severity that they wish they had been the one to die. The sadness of losing […]

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For the baby boomer generation, the loss of a spouse is something you have an even chance of suffering in later years. Those who are on the surviving end of the process can sometimes feel the effects of bereavement with such severity that they wish they had been the one to die.

The sadness of losing a long term partner, wife or husband is hard to describe for those who have not been through the experience. A baby boomer going through the process of grieving for a lost partner finds it difficult to believe that life will eventually improve but of course it can and usually does.

Added to the difficulty and sadness of grief is sometimes the exhaustion that is involved in a long spell of nursing a sick partner closely followed by the necessary organization of a funeral that might involve meeting and greeting an army of people and providing hospitality at a time when catering is the last thing you want to think about.

When all the ceremony of death is finally over and the flowers and ribbons have been cleared from the hallway, bereavement finally finds a gateway and many widows and widowers find this calm after the storm the most difficult to face. The annoyance of over tactful and well meaning friends tip toeing through the house and avoiding any conversation which includes the word ‘death’ or ‘illness’ can be enough to drive a sane baby boomer to complete madness and so the bereaved person turns to solitude for comfort.

Although the period following death should include a time of reflection and memories, it should be understood that too much can be harmful. There is a happy middle ground between healthy grieving and morbid obsession. This balance must be found and the grieving process healthily addressed to allow life to move forward and embrace the changes that are necessary.

After a few weeks, the issue of moving on might be diplomatically approached by friends and family, although too hard a push at this point might result in some anxiety so it is well to avoid being over enthusiastic. The best way forward is the suggestion of a few options; especially if finances suggest a move is unavoidable. However, leave the matter open until the subject is raised again voluntarily by the bereaved person. If after another week there is no change; try again.

baby boomer bereavement period is also difficult for friends close enough to be affected by the person’s obvious distress. A slow and gentle but firm resolve is required to help someone through this painful but sadly inevitable experience. Taking the time to consult a professional on grief counseling is always a good idea and can certainly help everyone through the process.

Waiting for the sun to come out after the death of someone close always seems to take ages and can sometimes be a protracted ritual but life does eventually pick up again and move forward. Life does go on, after all…And remember these steps to AdaptAbility:

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Surviving the Loss of a Spouse is part of Boomer Yearbook’s continuing series of baby boomers psychological coaching tips and how to alleviate elderly problems. We believe knowledge is power. We’d love to hear what you think.

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 Glamourous Elderly Ladies and the Dying Art of ‘Chic’ https://karenturnerphd.org/glamourous-elderly-ladies-and-the-dying-art-of-chic/ Wed, 06 Sep 2023 09:40:00 +0000 https://karenturnerphd.org/?p=5547   Some elderly ladies, despite having elderly problems, are so beautifully groomed. Many of them, of course, learned their grooming routine in the forties and fifties when, rightly or wrongly, it was unacceptable for women to wear jeans or appear in public without a hat and a pair of gloves (winter or summer!) The idea […]

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Some elderly ladies, despite having elderly problems, are so beautifully groomed. Many of them, of course, learned their grooming routine in the forties and fifties when, rightly or wrongly, it was unacceptable for women to wear jeans or appear in public without a hat and a pair of gloves (winter or summer!) The idea of appearing with a hair out of place was simply ‘not done’. As time marched on, women changed their outlook and their take on appearances changed with it. The fashion trends that dictated formality in the early boomer years dropped away, but some habits die hard.

Busy mothers of today race through the house in the early morning, getting children off to school and gulping half a cup of cold coffee over a mouthful of burned toast as they stuff junior into a car seat, throw on a skirt and a sweatshirt and pile their entire lives into a seven-seater, en route to school, the mall and eventually the child minder, on their way to work. On a good day, they will have one eye on the mirror while pulling a comb through their hair in the car park, mobile held firmly to one ear.

Grandma, however, in spite of her elderly problems, spends more than an hour crimping her hair and painting her nails before selecting a matched set of accessories suitable for day wear at the social center, where she will while away a few hours before heading home for lunch. Somewhere, the standards set by Grandma became lost in the pressured, modern world of here-today-gone-tomorrow fashion and lifestyle.

One of the most endearing qualities of elderly chic is its ability to bridge time. Grandma looks as pretty today in her pink print dress and pearls and she did in 1958 and many ladies with elderly problems have conquered the ravages of time and kept their figures, enabling them to achieve an elegance that escapes many younger women.

In our modern and scheduled existence, a culture of scruffiness and ‘shabby chic’ has taken hold of young women and rendered them, to an extent, masculine in their appearance. Having messy hair and wearing grubby trainers has become, if not ideal – acceptable; especially for busy mothers. When did we let go of our standards? Was it the baby boomer years that ‘did away’ with glamour and made us ‘slobs in our time?’ It is almost too sad to consider that Grandma’s generation were the architects of the death of elegance.

The younger women in our world are, as yet, free of the elderly problems that trouble Grandma in her twilight years. However, in terms of fashion, grooming and appearance, we could all take a leaf out of her book and pay a little more attention to our hair, nails and the shine on our shoes before we set out each morning. Perhaps the white summer gloves and the straw hat are taking things a little far, though!

The Psychological Article on Glamorous Elderly Ladies and the Dying Art of Chic is part of Boomer Yearbook’s continuing series of baby boomers psychological coaching tips and how to alleviate elderly problems. We believe knowledge is power. We’d love to hear what you think.

Boomer Yearbook is a Social Network and Psychological Articles for Baby Boomers. Connect with old and new friends, or expand your mind and ward off senior moments and elderly problems with dream analysis and online optical illusions and brain games provided by clinical psychologist Dr. Karen Turner. Join other Baby Boomers to stay informed, receive weekly Newsfeeds, and let your opinions be heard. Baby boomers changed the world. We’re not done yet!

Boomer Yearbook is a Social Network and Psychological Articles for Baby Boomers. Connect with old and new friends, or expand your mind and ward off senior moments and elderly problems with dream analysis and online optical illusions and brain games provided by clinical psychologist Dr. Karen Turner. Join other Baby Boomers to stay informed, receive weekly Newsfeeds, and let your opinions be heard. Baby boomers changed the world. We’re not done yet!

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autistic grandchildren, baby boomers, Elderly Problems, Psychological Articles https://karenturnerphd.org/autistic-grandchildren-baby-boomers-elderly-problems-psychological-articles/ Tue, 05 Sep 2023 19:33:46 +0000 https://karenturnerphd.org/?p=5541   Some elderly ladies, despite having elderly problems, are so beautifully groomed. Many of them, of course, learned their grooming routine in the forties and fifties when, rightly or wrongly, it was unacceptable for women to wear jeans or appear in public without a hat and a pair of gloves (winter or summer!) The idea […]

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Some elderly ladies, despite having elderly problems, are so beautifully groomed. Many of them, of course, learned their grooming routine in the forties and fifties when, rightly or wrongly, it was unacceptable for women to wear jeans or appear in public without a hat and a pair of gloves (winter or summer!) The idea of appearing with a hair out of place was simply ‘not done’. As time marched on, women changed their outlook and their take on appearances changed with it. The fashion trends that dictated formality in the early boomer years dropped away, but some habits die hard.

Busy mothers of today race through the house in the early morning, getting children off to school and gulping half a cup of cold coffee over a mouthful of burned toast as they stuff junior into a car seat, throw on a skirt and a sweatshirt and pile their entire lives into a seven-seater, en route to school, the mall and eventually the child minder, on their way to work. On a good day, they will have one eye on the mirror while pulling a comb through their hair in the car park, mobile held firmly to one ear.

Grandma, however, in spite of her elderly problems, spends more than an hour crimping her hair and painting her nails before selecting a matched set of accessories suitable for day wear at the social center, where she will while away a few hours before heading home for lunch. Somewhere, the standards set by Grandma became lost in the pressured, modern world of here-today-gone-tomorrow fashion and lifestyle.

One of the most endearing qualities of elderly chic is its ability to bridge time. Grandma looks as pretty today in her pink print dress and pearls and she did in 1958 and many ladies with elderly problems have conquered the ravages of time and kept their figures, enabling them to achieve an elegance that escapes many younger women.

In our modern and scheduled existence, a culture of scruffiness and ‘shabby chic’ has taken hold of young women and rendered them, to an extent, masculine in their appearance. Having messy hair and wearing grubby trainers has become, if not ideal – acceptable; especially for busy mothers. When did we let go of our standards? Was it the baby boomer years that ‘did away’ with glamour and made us ‘slobs in our time?’ It is almost too sad to consider that Grandma’s generation were the architects of the death of elegance.

The younger women in our world are, as yet, free of the elderly problems that trouble Grandma in her twilight years. However, in terms of fashion, grooming and appearance, we could all take a leaf out of her book and pay a little more attention to our hair, nails and the shine on our shoes before we set out each morning. Perhaps the white summer gloves and the straw hat are taking things a little far, though!

The Psychological Article on Glamorous Elderly Ladies and the Dying Art of Chic is part of Boomer Yearbook’s continuing series of baby boomers psychological coaching tips and how to alleviate elderly problems. We believe knowledge is power. We’d love to hear what you think.

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HEARD IT THROUGH THE GRAPEVINE: Tasting Notes or Testing Notes? The Nose Knows by BoomerYearbook.com https://karenturnerphd.org/heard-it-through-the-grapevine-tasting-notes-or-testing-notes-the-nose-knows-by-boomeryearbook-com/ Tue, 05 Sep 2023 17:44:57 +0000 https://karenturnerphd.org/?p=5481   Strawberries, cherries, leather, coffee, cinnamon, mushrooms…I thought wine was made from grapes. How do all these other aromas and flavors come into this? Such descriptions are known in the wine arena as tasting notes, and although they can be confusing they are designed to provide valuable information about a wine’s characteristics. To an amateur, […]

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Strawberries, cherries, leather, coffee, cinnamon, mushrooms…I thought wine was made from grapes. How do all these other aromas and flavors come into this? Such descriptions are known in the wine arena as tasting notes, and although they can be confusing they are designed to provide valuable information about a wine’s characteristics. To an amateur, those who use such terms appear to be speaking to a select group of initiated oenophiles or simply poking fun at you. Perhaps they are trying to impress you with their knowledge of the great complexities of wine or to give you a bit of vertigo.

Although it is daunting to try to perceive all the aromas/flavors depicted in some columnists tasting notes, take heart. Tasting notes really do provide a wealth of information (OK there are those who wax a bit too poetic and describe flavors such as quince, wisteria, and sawgrass …perfumes/flavors not all of us can relate to as easily as, for example, red berries). By and large, these descriptions are not all pompous displays of how many fruits, spices and flowers the reviewer knows. Most notes, whether well written, completely accurate or not, can help you understand how a wine will taste.

How? You say? First, as bizarre as it might seem, it is not just an illusion that many aromas and flavors are present in the wine. Yes, really present.

First let’s clarify the role of smell in tasting. It is indispensable. Humans perceive only four tastes: sweet, salty, bitter, and sour. Humans perceive thousands of smells…detect, identify, differentiate them. Think of eating when you have a stuffed nose. The tastes are almost non-existent. Smells color those four flavors and give us nuances and a repertoire of flavors we easily recognize ( Mmm, I smell chocolate, bacon, roast turkey..).

No, it is not with smoke and mirrors that these aromas and flavors permeate the juice of fermented grapes. How is this possible? The answer is natural law. Wine is made from grapes…we all know that. But did you realize that wine is alive? Yes alive because it contains yeasts, which are living organisms. All living organisms change over time and conditions. The same is true for wine. As the grapes ferment and then age, many molecules develop. Here’s the great scientific fact: the same molecules that make strawberries smell and taste like strawberries can be present in some wines. So when you smell cherries, leather, coffee, nutmeg…in wine, yes, you really do smell those fruits flowers and spices. Tasting notes are supposed to help you identify and therefore appreciate the multiple and seemingly unrelated tastes and smells that rush at you when you taste wine.

With the help of tasting notes and lots of practice, you begin to sense the aromas and tastes together and recognize each flavor as it unfolds in layers. The aromas are manifestations of the characteristics of the specific grape(s) and the wine made with it. Each grape varietal exhibits specific aromas called Primary aromas. Many, or even most wines are a blend of several grape varietals, each with its own set of primary aromas. This is why lots of practice tasting is key. The aromas that result from the vinifying process are called secondary aromas and they indicate the wine’s origin and style. As a wine ages and oxidizes it gains tertiary aromas. Here’s where the fun really gets rolling. Tasting regularly becomes a mind puzzle as well as a sensual pleasure. Even in the early steps you recognize, but can’t name lots of aromas / flavors…just can’t put your finger on it. Memories come rushing from your mouth and nose to your brain faster than you can say Marcel Proust.

Most of what you will taste is revealed in repeated sniffing. As you start to sense more and more aromas, you will also notice that you taste these flavors in layers that develop in your mouth. After swallowing, exhale through the nose and observe the persistent aromas. This is called retro olfaction and it gives you the rounding out of the flavors.
Count the seconds the wine flavors last in your mouth. The longer the duration, the better the wine.

Mmmm. Enjoy the road.

Heard it Through the Grapevine: Tasting Notes or Testing Notesis part of Boomer Yearbook’s continuing series of baby boomers psychological coaching tips and how to alleviate elderly problems. We believe knowledge is power. We’d love to hear what you think.

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How Comics and Baby Boomers Influenced the World: A Comparative Study (Pt:4) https://karenturnerphd.org/how-comics-and-baby-boomers-influenced-the-world-a-comparative-study-pt4/ Tue, 05 Sep 2023 11:55:27 +0000 https://karenturnerphd.org/?p=5426   The sixties had been a trial by fire experience for baby boomers and comic books. In both cases, a defiance of established norms had resulted in significant change. Baby boomers understood that as generational force, they had the power to effect real change in society. The comics industry, as a popular medium recognized that their stories were a […]

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The sixties had been a trial by fire experience for baby boomers and comic books. In both cases, a defiance of established norms had resulted in significant change. Baby boomers understood that as generational force, they had the power to effect real change in society. The comics industry, as a popular medium recognized that their stories were a source of influence for the young generation that was now coming of age. As baby boomers and comics flexed their respective “muscles of influence”, the seventies would illustrate the results of social change.

Even a child of the seventies will have trouble attempting to describe the decade. Simply put, it was different than any other previous decade. Not necessarily bad, not necessarily good (terms which are relative to whomever you are speaking too); just different. In reality, the cultural mindset of the seventies was a direct result of the actions that baby boomers had taken in the previous decade. The seventies are a period in which baby boomers were entering the workforce en masse and their recognition that they held the keys to transform a society wasn’t wasted.

Whereas a wave of conservatism had swept the country in the fifties, the seventies would see a similar wave of liberalism. Needless to say, older generations were aghast at the changes that were taking place. And the changes were reflective everywhere, including the mediums that baby boomers sought entertainment in.

From music to television to comic books; the ideas and behavior that so personifies the seventies were promoted. Comic books continued to advance such ideas as racial equality in not so subtle stories about the struggles of being a minority. For the first time, heroes of color such as the Black Panther and Black Lightening made their appearances in their own comic books, as comics became more culturally diverse. These early images of minorities in strong positions would help to serve as inspiration and role models for many minorities struggling with racial adversity.

Along with heroes of color, comics also took note of issues of gender equality issues as well. Baby boomers of the seventies, especially the ladies, began to assert that women had an equal place in the world with their male counterparts. From sports to the work place, women were demanding and gaining better treatment. Title IX, for example, introduced legislation in 1972 that provided equal opportunity for women to participate in school athletics.

Comics, at this point, would portray women in strong secondary roles in contrast with major characters – Lois Lane to Superman, Carol Farris to Green Lantern and others. Women were shown as capable professional individuals and not sex objects or placed in stereotypical situations. Like minority superheroes, women heroes began to emerge from supporting roles to star in their own books as well, such as Wonder Woman and Ms. Marvel. Young women would embrace these concepts whole heartedly.

The seventies can be seen as a transition period. Women and minorities would soon assume greater roles in society at large, but those gains were as a result of the ideas that were being set forth in the mediums of the seventies, including comic books. Baby boomers and comics in this time period openly experimented with the ideas that would begin to shape the decades to come.

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How Old is Too Old to Divorce? https://karenturnerphd.org/how-old-is-too-old-to-divorce/ Tue, 05 Sep 2023 11:09:28 +0000 https://karenturnerphd.org/?p=5403   The modern take on marriage, separation and divorce is hard to accept for many elderly spouses who vowed to love, cherish, obey and generally put up with old ‘whatisname’ forever or until hell freezes over…! ‘In my day, when you made your bed, you lay in it forever…’ was the popular attitude taken by […]

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The modern take on marriage, separation and divorce is hard to accept for many elderly spouses who vowed to love, cherish, obey and generally put up with old ‘whatisname’ forever or until hell freezes over…! ‘In my day, when you made your bed, you lay in it forever…’ was the popular attitude taken by most Grandmothers up until around the late sixties, when baby boomers decided free love was more fun.

Making your bed and laying in it forever does have its points, however, especially if you are a baby boomer approaching seventy and you cannot be bothered to cook your own meals!

Married Man Entering His Home

Married Man Entering His Home

The trend in modern society is to try out the marriage bed first, by living with a partner for several years before finally agreeing to tie the knot around the sixth birthday of the fourth child of the alliance; a lifestyle that would shock most Grannies of the sixties were they still around to witness it.

Despite being able to take a free trial run, however, many baby boomers still get it horribly wrong and end up in a marital nightmare for many years before finally deciding enough is enough. The results of an unhappy alliance are, unfortunately, all too evident to family and friends who are close enough to the troubled couple to know how painful an unhappy marriage can be.

The misery of discord might often lead to one or both partners taking lovers and having short or long term affairs with other people. The eternal triangle will result in gossip; intrigue; deceit and usually end in divorce no matter how old the parties involved might be. Deeply unhappy couples sometimes continue to live under the same roof despite their differences but stubbornly refuse to be sociable or even polite over a painful and punishing period of disharmony because they feel they are too old to divorce.

But what age is too old? Sixty? Seventy? Eighty…? Some people, in spite of having numerous sexual encounters in their early years, take their marriage vows seriously enough to avoid separation and divorce well into their late sixties. Knowing the legal option is readily available is comforting but not actually of any practical help if you are stuck in a stale mate with a man or woman you cannot bear the sight of but also cannot bear to part with.

The first step to the divorce court is often arrived at after receiving a friendly shove from a well meaning friend or relative who can no longer stand to watch two lovely people living a nightmare together when they could be happy apart. Age should not be a barrier to separation or divorce for baby boomers prepared to take a responsible and sharing attitude to the legal aspects of parting amicably: stubborn conflict usually means the lawyers get the lion’s share of the finances.

Divorced Man Knocking on door of Former Home

Divorced Man Knocking on door of Former Home

For baby boomers in a long term unhappy marriage, age should not dictate how and with whom one should live.

The Psychological Article on How Old is Too Old to Divorce? is part of Boomer Yearbook’s continuing series of baby boomers psychological coaching tips and how to alleviate elderly problems. 

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Judaism: An Introduction https://karenturnerphd.org/judaism-an-introduction/ Tue, 05 Sep 2023 08:54:44 +0000 https://karenturnerphd.org/?p=5272   Since the beginning of Judaism, the religion has been presented as one that is based on an agreed relationship between God and the Jews or the Children of Israel. It is considered as the first religion to be based around the concept of a single God or monotheism. Psychological articles abound with references to Judaic features […]

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Since the beginning of Judaism, the religion has been presented as one that is based on an agreed relationship between God and the Jews or the Children of Israel. It is considered as the first religion to be based around the concept of a single God or monotheism. Psychological articles abound with references to Judaic features as being the predecessor of all modern-day Western beliefs of religion, moral codes, and public laws.

As one of the oldest, if not the oldest formalized religion, even nowadays, Judaism is practiced with fervor as many of its beliefs, precepts, books and texts are adhered to by not only Jewish followers but also play a pivotal role in other religions of Abrahamic origins. Many readers are aware that Christianity incorporates the Old Testament or the Judaic Bible, but may be surprised to learn that Islam has also been greatly influenced by Judaism; and thus both Christianity and Islam are recognized as Semitic religions or variations or expansions upon Judaic doctrines. In fact, psychological articlestell us that Muslims are technically forbidden from marrying outside their faith unless marrying a Christian or a religious cousinJew.

Basic Principle of Judaism:

The most important principle of Judaism has always been an unwavering and strong belief in the existence of a single, omnipotent, omniscient and uplifting God; who is the Supreme Being, the creator of our Universe and the ruler of it all. As believed by its followers, Judaism arose from an agreement or a covenant that was formed between God and the people of Israel; when God revealed his laws and decrees to the Prophet Moses at Mount Sinai. This was done not only in the oral but also the written Torah, the holy book of the Jews. Tradition requires that followers of Judaism read and follow the commandments set forth in the Torah. The word “tradition” is used here because in spite of history showing Judaism to revere the concepts given in the Torah and hold them to be the principles on which Judaism is founded, modern day Judaism does not vest all authority in any one entity but believes in various holy texts, doctrines of law, and the interpretation of these laws by scholarly rabbis.

Who is a Jew?

To be a Jew, one needs to either be born to a Jewish mother or have converted to Judaism. This is an important point that many fail to understand as Judaism is a religion whereas being a Jew is commonly and inaccurately considered a racial or a nationalistic term. For instance, the Nazi’s wrongly decreed Judaism a race and additionally people often incorrectlyconfuse Zionism, (people living in Israel after establishing the Jewish nation in Palestine), with Judaism, the followers of the Jewish faith. According to psychological articles regarding the tradition that being born to a Jewish mother automatically gives the descendent Jewish status, it is explained that during the time of Jewish slavery, Jewish woman were routinely raped by their Egyptian slave owners, and therefore, Jews considered the mother as the proper descendent of Jewish lineage. Additionally, in a psychological article examining the subject,
Rebecca Weiner, in Who is a Jew? (Jewish Virtual Library) contends that anyone born of a Jewish mother or anyone converted to the religion is recognized as a Jew. Throughout history, Jews have been referred to by many names, some of the most common being Children of Israel or Israelites, which refers to the fact that the people are descendants of Jacob, who was also called Israel. (Jewish Virtual Library)

Contrary to misconceptions, modern as well as ancient Judaism embrace converts, (i.e., The Old Testament talks of Ruth as a convert and recognizes the children of Ruth as Jews), but does not attempt to convert those not actively seeking out Judaism. Boomer Yearbook, the website for psychological articles about types of discrimination, also discovered that technically speaking a Jew remains a Jew forever whether born Jewish, converted to Judaism or a practice of the Faith.

Prayers in Judaism:

Judaism traditionally involves praying three times a day whereas a 4th prayer is offered on certain occasions. Common Jewish holidays are the:

• Shabbat
• 3 Pilgrimage Festivals
• High Holy Days, and
• Hanukkah

Followers of Judaism traditionally wear a small round cap called a kippah, and a prayer shawl known as a tallit. In addition, knotted tassels called tzitzi and 2 square boxes made of leather called tefillin are also worn on certain occasions.

Astoundingly and still not completely understood, is the fact cited by Gail Lichtman in her 2004 psychological article, “Beating the Odds: Why Jews win so many Nobel Prizes”, Jews comprise less than .2% of the World’s population and yet have received 22% of Nobel Science Awards and an additionally high percentage of Nobel Prizes in Arts and Literature! In other words while only 1 out of every 1000 persons in the world is Jewish, nonetheless, they are recognized as a disproportionately represented body of contributors to world thought and innovation. In the 1996 book, “Comets, Jews and Christians,” the amazing statistic is presented that in the US, where Jews represent a slightly higher concentration than in the world population, (albeit still less that 2% of US people), approximately 32% have been awarded Nobel Science Prizes alone. Numerous psychological articles have pondered why this is true, but no definitive answers have been concluded.
Thus the world’s Jewish population that numbers approximately 12 million in 2009 has consistently been recognized as forerunners in intellectual thought and scientific contributions.

Psychological Articles as Solutions to Types of Discrimination

Psychological Articles as Solutions to Types of Discrimination

The Psychological Article on An Introduction to Judaism is part of Boomer Yearbook’s continuing series of psychological articles on World Religions, Spirtuality, and Solutions to Types of Discrimination

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Financial strains don’t just have a negative effect on your bank balance; it also puts severe strain on your relationship. As Baby Boomers, like yourself, come to terms with the loss of a portion of your retirement savings, you are undoubtedly becoming more and more aware of the, possibly drastic, change your way of life is about to undergo. These are indeed tough times, but do they also have to make your relationship difficult?

It doesn’t. To avoid having the effects of the economic crisis from creeping into your relationship, you should first be aware that the possibility exists. Then you should resolve that you will not allow it to destroy your wonderful relationship. This resolution should be, of course, a joint one between the two of you otherwise it might not work as well as you’d like.

Second, acknowledge the problem and your feelings towards it. Do not pretend as though all is fine with the world and that the fact that you’re poorer today than you were a year ago is causing you great anxiety. Ignoring the problem will not make it go away; in fact, it could make it worse.

 width=Third, discuss your situation and feelings with your significant other. Share your fears and then make plans as to the best way to deal with the problem. Simply saying your thoughts out loud can do wonders to alleviate your anxiety. It’s also a good idea to make a pact to monitor each other’s spending habits and keep him/her in check.

Fourth, despite the financial setback, make time for each other and to do things together – just the two of you. These do not have to be the luxurious Caribbean cruises that you used to take, but you could go to a local beach or a concert where you can relive wonderful memories of your youth. The important thing is that you both enjoy the activity and time together.

Fifth, reassure each other of your love and commitment to keeping the relationship strong. Do this many times daily verbally and non-verbally. It is a fantastic thing when you really know that someone really cares. Suddenly all the financial problems in the world do not matter.

The truth is, even though we all need money to survive in our society, we should not lose sight that there are a lot of things much more important than it. I believe that these things should be cherished and nurtured. What do you think?

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