Sex Dreams: Sometimes a Cigar is Just a Cigar
Sex dreams can be common for both men and women although they are generally not discussed and considered a taboo topic. It is strange that it should be so today, considering how sex is so prevalent in today’s society. We see it everywhere from television to bill board ads and even in song lyrics. Yet, we rarely discuss the subject matter as it relates to dreams. Perhaps it is less embarrassing to watch someone else’s sexual fantasy on television or listen to someone else talk about them than to actually do so ourselves.
Whether you talk about your sex dreams or not, there is nothing to be embarrassed about. Like all other dreams, it is simply the unconscious mind working its many wonders as we sleep. The famous psychologist, Sigmund Freud, believed that people had sexual dreams because of repressed sexual desires and emotions. Of course, in his time, sex was very much a taboo topic. It was never discussed or displayed the way that it is today.
However, I suppose that it is possible that one could experience a sex dream because of repressed desires and emotions. Especially for the elderly and the baby boomers generation that did not grow up speaking as freely about sex. A dream could be about a particular sexual fantasy or about a particular person. A lot of times if a person has something (or in this case, someone) on the mind it will manifest itself in a dream. You may not even be thinking about that person in a sexual manner. Yet, the dream may bring to light some hidden or unwanted romantic feelings you may be feeling towards a person.
Even with all of the Freudian type theories, psychological articles inform us that it is also entirely possible that your sex dream meant absolutely nothing–nothing sexual anyhow. It could be that you are dreaming about a particular person from your past. This doesn’t mean that your marriage is in trouble or that you have feelings for someone else. It could just symbolize a particular time in your life. Maybe at that point you had adventure in your life or particular freedoms of the past. Perhaps it reminds you of a time in your life when you were not tied down with so many responsibilities.
Just remember when you have a dream of a sexual nature; it is nothing to be ashamed of or to be alarmed about. You should not immediately interpret the dream as something negative. Dreams often leave us puzzled and confused. We want to search for answers as to why we would dream a particular dream, especially if it is an embarrassing dream or something we think we should feel guilty about. Yet, we cannot control what our unconscious mind may be trying to accomplish. So do not over-think the situation and remember—it’s only a dream, or as Freud would say, “Sometimes a cigar is just a cigar”.
